Caught in-between slow, simple life of hometown and the other way in Mumbai

A life here and a life there…
heart here, mind there
peace here, money there
maa here, friends there
a child here, man there
mom’s food here, dabba there
few intrude here, many there
space here, thronged there
home here, flat there
can pause here, always rush there
can personal meet here, phone & email there
life which way ???
well, somewhere here & there

Hometown is always close to heart particularly for us nomad’s who have left home. We have help built a living there, but then we are not there to enjoy it!!! As is the new hometown, without it out how can we make a living?

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My Bachelorhood & (other’s) Sasuma

I liked the tag line. Initially had thought of writing separately on my traits with bachelor days and the phenomenon called Sasuma in a newly married mans life. Thought off nothing better then to combine the two topics…

At this age, and particularly after your elder Bro gets married, every one just keeps saying, ‘chal, ab teri line clear’(don’t know how; as in who had stopped me earlier!!)… a simple line but makes a huge difference in a bachelors life…

Dunno when did I grew so old- children playing cricket alongside ask for a mishit ball from me…chant ‘Uncle ball please’…what to say …I feel yaar tujhe mein itna bada kaha se dikh raha hu…the point is I never understood when did I loose my teens to become more of an adult…

That is why I don’t want to loose my bachelor days….this is something which I can control…that is why I feel saying f***off when someone says ‘ab teri line clear’…don’t feel like being in a jail when I’m enjoying all such freedom…freedom characterized by no one being there on my head asking me to come on time at home… no long phone calls/ the huge phone bills (cant manage a huge phone bill in these recessionary & no bonus time)… no one asking what I eat or where I am late night…just cant bear such questions…

Bachelor days are characterized by fellow friends like me…sharing a flat…no one caring of who comes at what time…nor bothered whom I am talking (I think I’m wrong… they can link me to everyone I speak to)… where I’m going and doing what… even we don’t care that our bathrooms have no latch or our flat’s windows have no curtains… who cares… we are free to observe and be observed… that’s freedom, freedom of no burden on mind…of just thinking and doing things… not worrying for any…the only feminine aspect being the ‘bai’ coming each day (almost…have some doubts on that… she is the only one we care and think most/ or curse most for all her bunks) to clean the flat… that’s bachelorhood… more like virginity…u loose once, it never comes back…

The other side that I have really noticed now-a-days in a newly wed guys life… is the relation of son-in-law & mother-in-law!!!

Now since most friends/ colleagues of my age are getting married, the phenomenon called ‘sasuma’ inevitably gets discussed at some point in time…

Never had I ever thought of caring to know of how important a ‘sasuma’ would be to a newly wed guy… seriously man…with all the gen-next wives these days, whom do u think is the guy being fed the same kind of food that his mother did all these years !! Till the time these gen-next wives get the accustomed to cooking… the sasuma provides the much needed relief… atleast for those who have been staying away from there home for some years now and marry a local girl…I’m not sounding sexist…but men are men…we hardly like to go to the kitchen and cook food… hats off to the one who manage to do that…

My bro has been example for this phenomenon as is one of my office colleague… m sure my bro would never now sleep hungry on any day…if my sis in law is unable get out of office on time, rest assured he has to receive a tiffin…in a bachelors life- forget, no one even cares to ask u…

Then there is one colleague of mine… makes all of us jealous every day at lunch … as usual we eat the canteen food and this chap receives the tiffin from his mother in law…everything from salad to dessert…it has everything…even the sitafal is properly packed in the tiffin after removing the seeds… that’s what I call a perfect lunch…all of us happy to have that if my good colleague is out for meeting…

Seems a son in law becomes a default addition to the mother in laws list of persons to be cared after… makes me wonder …guys now need to ask one important question to all their would be gen-next wives…forget how well u cook food…how well ur mother does !!!